In terms of getting tasks done and building new behaviours, the word du jour has become intent. I like intent. I intend a lot of things but it has never got me to where I wanted to be and I suspect that is because I think of the word as a noun rather than an adjective.
When used as an adjective it is usually descriptive and future-focused Often used in affirmations. “I will write a blog post daily with intent” just doesn’t work for me but it’s a lot better than “I intend to write a blog post daily”.
“The road is paved with good intentions”, as the proverb goes.
I always thought that you needed to be committed to get things done. That commitment was the key to successful change of behaviours. If you were committed you were determined and would not let distractions or obstacles in your way. Commitment sounded good.
Mind you, I had challenges staying committed to a new way of being.
This past month I’ve been committed to writing blog posts daily. It’s been great for my habituation and for getting me focussed although it has taken me off my plan, but I did need the connection for doing something productive daily which builds my business.
This past week I’ve managed to be completely resolved in my eating habits. I have not eaten ANYTHING that I should not have. Any food or liquid I have consumed has been purely healthy and I have not had a desire for chocolate, biscuits or any of my other once-staple foods!
This last week I’ve learned that you need more than commitment or intent.
You need RESOLVE.
Resolve is aligned with discipline – a behaviour I’ve always decried as missing from my DNA although I found it in abundance for one night 4 years ago! (Not what you think..I was on nil by mouth and at a Christmas cocktail function).
Resolve is NOW focused. “I am resolved to writing daily on my blog” has more oomph to it imho.
Resolve is well resolute. It’s purposeful, determined and unwavering. No decisions need be made: it is already carved in stone.
I have been happy with my persistence in blog posting this last eight weeks or so. I have been amazed at my capacity to stay on course this past week in my eating program.
I have no idea where this resolve came from. I do know it needs a powerful motivation for it to kick in and operate effectively. For me, it was a subconscious choice. I literally woke up one morning and overnight seem to have decided on my course of action.
Now I have to work out how to apply that same resolve to some other areas of my life and work!
How do you build resolve? Where do you need it most?